Resolution for Men - Personal Introduction

In our life, we take things for granted. We feel that there will always be time for spiritual healing. On June 6, 1990, my father died from complications of a minor cardiac procedure. As I grew up, I did not receive spiritual guidance nor did I have a spiritual leader in my family.  What I learned years later is that my father had lost faith in the church. What I do not know and will not find out until I reach my eternal life is whether he lost faith in God or whether he had gained spiritual wellness. 

In August 2006, I met a special person who later became my wife. Since we first met, Catherine has made it clear to me that her faith in God was foremost important in her life and if I could not accept that it would be difficult to have a relationship. From that point on, I have made every effort to find my faith in God. It has been a difficult road that I will continue to travel until my dying day. At times, my faith has wavered because of poor relationships with various church circles that I will not detail.

In May 2011, Catherine and I began visiting a new church looking to start a new beginning for our family that will lead us through a great spiritual life. It is through this first visit, that we have begun a new journey in our lives with new friends that seek to help us on our spiritual journey. There have been various activities thought the men’s ministry that I have participated in but nothing more profound as what I am about to discuss in this blog.

In September, 2011 I attended a viewing of the movie Courageous that has had a profound impact on my life. I know that I have not started strong with my own family and I take blame for it. As I became a man, I should have sought out the right guidance that would provide me with some spiritual foundation to lead my family. At the age of 42, I am behind on my spiritual leadership for my family. This is a change that I need for my family and it starts now. I need to be that spiritual leader for my wife and children. Throughout this blog, you will see personal thoughts and quotes of scripture with hopes personal growth as well. It is to be a guide for those that also desire spiritual growth and change in their life. But most of all, it is a guide for my wife and children to see how far I have grown as a man and spiritual leader for my family. My name is John Kurmay and I WILL be that spiritual leader for my wife and children.

I am no expert in the field of spiritual wellness or being. My expertise are in a totally different career field but as I grow in my faith, I see so many others that do not have the same luxury that every family should have and needs to have. Every family should have that spiritual leader in their family but more importantly our children need to grow up with a father in their life. Those that read this will not agree with it! This is in part my own observations as I read through the Resolution for Men but also my own personal thoughts as I fellowship with two great friends that I have asked to hold me accountable as a spiritual leader for my family. I know that I will not always do the right thing and when I do not I will seek forgiveness for my shortcomings.

While the movie Courageous and particularly the closing speech by Adam Mitchell is given in the view point of a police officer, I see the point of that speech. As a Teacher Assistant in a high school, I see for myself what happens to children that do not have a father in their life. All I can do is pray that they understand that we want them to succeed and understand that we want to guide them in the best way we can in the few short years that we have them in our hallways.

John