Resolution for Men - Chapter One

“Why We Need Men of Resolution”:

In today’s society, children are guided by the influences of television, movie and music: some do not have a strong father in the home to be a spiritual leader and guide them down the right path in life. Many see that it is alright to live in sin because those in roles in influence are not held accountable for their sins. When children see this they feel it is alright for them not to be held accountable as well. It is the child that does not have the strong father figure in the home that finds them filled with sinful acts on a daily basis. I know from firsthand experience that my father did everything he could to support of family financially but never supported us spiritually. That is the foundation that our children need in life; they need that spiritual leader in their home. Our wives need that spiritual leader in the home; they deserve it!

Scripture: “Be strong, and let us show ourselves courageous for the sake of our people and for the cities of our God; and may the LORD do what is good in His Sight.” (2 Samuel 10:12)

My reasons for doing this: I have chosen to take this step because my family needs it. I need to be a spiritual leader that will teach the word of God to my children. I need my children to trust that God has a plan for them and that they are to do His works to the best of their abilities. I also need my children to know that they are an important part of my life and that particular influences within our society our unacceptable in the eyes of our Lord. I resolve to be the spiritual leader for my family and to teach my children the word of God on a daily basis.

John

Resolution for Men - Chapter Four

“Resolve to be a Man of Responsibility”:

As a man we must be responsible for what happens in our homes. We cannot place the blame on someone else. We must assume responsibility and takes steps to change inadequate situations in our homes. As a man of responsibility, we must take ownership as the spiritual leader in our homes. It is our wives rule to be a guide and a support channel for what we want to do spiritually for our family. Our wives do not need to be the one to take on our role as the leader of the home. That is our job and we MUST take the wheel and guide our family.

Scripture: “Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” (1 Corinthians 16:13)

How did I accomplish this? 

I have spoken to my family about my NEED to be responsible for my family. When it comes to doing things in the family, it is important that I am the one that guides our family in the right direction. It does not mean that I am ruling my house with an iron fist because that is not the case. It means that I will not allow our activities to stray away from God's desires for our family. That to me is what a Man of Responsibility is all about!

John

Resolution for Men - Chapter Three

Chapter Three “Becoming a Chain Breaker”:

In the eyes of the Lord, we are born into sin. The only thing we can do is choose how we intend to handle that sin. We can choose to follow the sinful paths of our father and grandfather or we can seek to make a righteous change in the eyes of the Lord. Regardless of the sins before us, the lies told to us or the bitterness that may have been bestowed upon us, we must seek truth faith to God and his plan for us. We must repent our sins, forgive those that have wronged us, seek the truth in lieu of believing the spiritual lies, break the bad traditions and set new ones that encourage spiritual growth, seek guidance through prayer and most importantly dedicate our families to God.

Scripture: “Jesus said, “If you hold my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”” (John 8:31-32 NIV)

Pray: Dear Lord, Please forgive me for I am new at this. I know that I have sinned quite often in my life and I ask that you forgive me for my sins. I see to forgive those that have not had the best intentions for my well-being and that they deserve my true and eternal forgiveness because I am not to be the judge. You Lord are the only person that can judge those that have wronged others. Please see my family as a dedication to what you provide us and to use us as your faithful servants. I will seek Your words of Wisdom through Scripture as I break through the lies that have been given. I seek to start new spiritual traditions in Your name. Ahem.

John

Resolution for Men - Chapter Two

“A Lifelong Vision of Fatherhood”:

A lack of spiritual guidance can lead to inappropriate and mistrusted feelings in life. If we fail to learn the true meaning of spiritual righteousness, we will live with sin until our dying days. There is an importance of spiritual wellness that every man should desire. If they have not received that as a child, they should seek it as a man and break the chain of misguided faith and sin. Our families demand that we be the spiritual leader in the home and if we did not grow up with that leadership and guidance than we must seek it. We must see the desire of spiritual wellness for our family’s sakes or our children will live a dreary life filled with sin, hatred and misguided feelings. Our sons need to learn how to be that spiritual leader for their family and our daughters need to learn to be virtuous women.  The chain that holds back the spiritual wellness must be broken for the good of our family and for generations to come.

Scripture: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV)

Change made in the life of my family to show value towards God’s blessings: Each person in the family will be asked to identify one thing that they want to thank God for.

John

Resolution for Men - Personal Introduction

In our life, we take things for granted. We feel that there will always be time for spiritual healing. On June 6, 1990, my father died from complications of a minor cardiac procedure. As I grew up, I did not receive spiritual guidance nor did I have a spiritual leader in my family.  What I learned years later is that my father had lost faith in the church. What I do not know and will not find out until I reach my eternal life is whether he lost faith in God or whether he had gained spiritual wellness. 

In August 2006, I met a special person who later became my wife. Since we first met, Catherine has made it clear to me that her faith in God was foremost important in her life and if I could not accept that it would be difficult to have a relationship. From that point on, I have made every effort to find my faith in God. It has been a difficult road that I will continue to travel until my dying day. At times, my faith has wavered because of poor relationships with various church circles that I will not detail.

In May 2011, Catherine and I began visiting a new church looking to start a new beginning for our family that will lead us through a great spiritual life. It is through this first visit, that we have begun a new journey in our lives with new friends that seek to help us on our spiritual journey. There have been various activities thought the men’s ministry that I have participated in but nothing more profound as what I am about to discuss in this blog.

In September, 2011 I attended a viewing of the movie Courageous that has had a profound impact on my life. I know that I have not started strong with my own family and I take blame for it. As I became a man, I should have sought out the right guidance that would provide me with some spiritual foundation to lead my family. At the age of 42, I am behind on my spiritual leadership for my family. This is a change that I need for my family and it starts now. I need to be that spiritual leader for my wife and children. Throughout this blog, you will see personal thoughts and quotes of scripture with hopes personal growth as well. It is to be a guide for those that also desire spiritual growth and change in their life. But most of all, it is a guide for my wife and children to see how far I have grown as a man and spiritual leader for my family. My name is John Kurmay and I WILL be that spiritual leader for my wife and children.

I am no expert in the field of spiritual wellness or being. My expertise are in a totally different career field but as I grow in my faith, I see so many others that do not have the same luxury that every family should have and needs to have. Every family should have that spiritual leader in their family but more importantly our children need to grow up with a father in their life. Those that read this will not agree with it! This is in part my own observations as I read through the Resolution for Men but also my own personal thoughts as I fellowship with two great friends that I have asked to hold me accountable as a spiritual leader for my family. I know that I will not always do the right thing and when I do not I will seek forgiveness for my shortcomings.

While the movie Courageous and particularly the closing speech by Adam Mitchell is given in the view point of a police officer, I see the point of that speech. As a Teacher Assistant in a high school, I see for myself what happens to children that do not have a father in their life. All I can do is pray that they understand that we want them to succeed and understand that we want to guide them in the best way we can in the few short years that we have them in our hallways.

John

Resolution for Men - A Beginning

This is the start to something that I have found to be both a challenge and a reward. It all started by seeing the movie Courageous and has turned into my own personal resolve to be a better spiritual leader for my family. What you will see is a transformation of my life as I follow a new journey to fulfill this resolve. I am not an expert in religion, I am far from that. I needed to make some changes in my life and the movie Courageous was the wake up call that started it.

Have no fears, step up and be Courageous.

Please feel free to comment as I share my journey with you.

John